No pictures to go with this one. Tonight Makenna and I watched the 96 version of Jane Eyre. She has read the book and really wanted to go see the NEW 2011 version with my mom and I. At the time, I wasn't sure it was kid friendly so I didn't let her go. After watching the movie I quizzed her again about the book, figured she could handle it and thought I would order the two of us an older version off of Netflix. I thought it could be one of our first mother/daughter type older movies. Something to remember. Little did I know!!
Part way through we paused the movie. I thought I would check in, make sure she didn't have any questions etc etc. We ended up in a huge discussion because of the little "ward girl" he is taking care of. One thing led to another and the next thing I know we are having "THE TALK".
Come to find out she had been reading my PARENTING MAGAZINES for the last 6 months and all the information was in there?? What?? Seriously?? I have never screened my parenting magazines for that kind of information. Where is the SAFETY WARNING??
In the end I think the "talk" went pretty well. She basically said that at her age,11, she thought it was kind of creepy, a little scary and she really didn't want any more detailed information than what she had already read.
I told her we could talk more when she was ready, I let her know that there were lots of people she could talk to about it.. Daddy, Grandma's, Aunts. She laughed at the whole daddy thing and said "PLEASE!! He about had a heart attack when he saw me reading the American Girls Guide to Dating. How would he react to this??"
I had to laugh at her reaction to talking to daddy. I am not sure, but maybe I would have felt the same way talking to my dad at age 11. On second thought I am sure I would have. Times haven't changed that much!!
very funny Alana. I was hoping for more of what you actually SAID! Jonah is only 7 months and I'm already dreading all of that "STUFF." :) You're a great Mama.. I need tips to file away. Maybe when you have "the talk" with the boys, you'll let us know what you say!
ReplyDeleteApril.. I let her know that it was a totally natural thing to do. It doesn't seem so now but that in 10+ years it would be. I reassured her that when the time was right it wouldn't be creepy. :) I am a little relieved that I didn't have to go into all the specifics at this point. She just didn't want to. I let her know that when she wanted more information to come ask me. When I have the talk with the boys I will make sure to let you know how it goes..:) Thankfully you have 10 years!! :)
ReplyDeleteWhat exactly had she read in your magazines? What did she know or ask?
ReplyDeleteNot sure on the specifics of what she read. She did not want to really talk about it. She was confused about the ward girl being his daughter and was he married twice?? Once to the woman in Paris as well as the crazy wife hiding upstairs. That is when I said no he wasn't married to the woman in Paris. Not sure exactly what she said next?? But I explained that sometimes people have babies even when they are not married? Then I asked if she understood that. She said "yes I was at your wedding" :) Then I asked her if she knew how babies were made and that is when she said yes. She said when she was looking for FLA information for a report and she started reading some of the articles and it told her all about the S word that she had used in Quiddler.
ReplyDeleteI think she is too embarrassed right now to really talk about specifics which is fine. I think she is too young anyway. But at some point I will go over it again with her. I told her that it was a very adult thing to do and that it is for married people.